Nakation Again!

It's the weekend before the July 4th holiday, vacation time for many Americans. My boyfriend and I are once again taking a mini-nakation back to Gunnison Park to spend time at Sandy Hook Beach. Once again, in order to afford this outing, we're sharing our room with our friends from our Memorial Day excursion. Our reservations are from Saturday through Wednesday. Another couple is taking our room for the remainder of the week and all the following week.

Beach nakations are always a little "iffy" as the fun is out on the beach with our nudist brothers. If the weather doesn't cooperate, there aren't too many options for nude social activities. That's another benefit to sharing our room with another couple. If the weather's lousy, we can always play spades or charades while hanging out naked.

For this particular nakation, BF and I invested in a game from a local toy store. It's an activity that can be done both inside or out. Regardless of the weather conditions, it's sure to prove to be fun and interesting. The name is "Twister" and when played nude, it's bound to create great "Kodak" moments as well as many new friendships! We got the idea from a biracial nudists couples newsletter and our friends from Boston are as excited about playing as we are.

Of course, there's always the typical beach usual sand sports, both volleyball and touch football: played nude, naturally. These are great but once the beach is packed with bodies, available space is severely limited. Sitting around and cruising the other men is another past-time, but that one gets old after awhile.  

Then, there's the thrill of making new acquaintances. Experience has taught us that at our particular accomodation, usually there's a few other gay nudist couples staying for the holiday and the four of us like to host them in our room. It's great to sit back, share some wine and discuss our nudist experiences. At times, we've even met another biracial couple like ourselves.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked  

Interracial Gay Love Pride

" I challenged him, saying: 'You say, "Love one another."

I say: "If a lifelong devotion has arisen in your heart for someone, if your happiness depends on theirs, if your greatest joy is found in doing things together, if you are willing to make sacrifices for your mutual benefit, then what the hell does it matter if they have a different colored skin,

or if they have the same genitals, or if they happen to be closely related?"

Being pro-love, I had to overcome my own prejudice, fear and negative judgment, and I wanted him to overcome his."

* Author Unknown *

I read the above quote recently in another blog posting (DQN In Northern Virginia, http://www.dqninnorthernvirginia.blogspot.com ) and felt it would be appropriate here during Pride Month. It resonated in my heart as true to what type of relationship my partner and I have together. The feelings expressed are both classic and timeless. Our love is based on our personalities; not solely on gender or race.

Interracial love is nothing new. It's been around throughout history. We need only to look in The Bible to find evidence of it. In this country, it was so common that there were laws passed preventing miscegenation (marriage between the races) in the Jim Crow South. There's no reason to think that black men and white men began falling in love overnight. Same gender love may not have had a societal acceptance and legal definition, but we all know it existed back in the day.

As much as many gay men want to deny it, within our own community, there are many, both black and white, who either privately or publicly disparage interracial relationships. Whatever their reasons, these men believe that men should love only within their respective race. They're entitled to their own beliefs, but, they are wrong to expect everyone to value the same.

Biracial couples, deeply committed to each other in an interracial relationship, experience love the same as everyone else. The only difference is that their love is manifested with a man of a different skin color. The fact that their love isn't blurred by race is no cause for guilt or shame.

Our celebration of our love isn't restricted to June as Pride Month. It is something that we all need to embrace every day of the year.  Our capacity to love "outside the traditional box," regardless of what others may believe or think, is a source of joy and honor. It's nothing that needs to be hidden.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked

It's Official: Summertime

Yesterday, we observed the beginning of the official summer season. The longest period of daylight in the calendar year. The Summer Solstice. A time to get outside and enjoy the warmer temperatures doing all those things that we dreamed about during the long weary months of winter. The days are here to get outside and have fun and play.

If you've ever been curious about social nudism, now's the opportunity to broaden your horizons, take off those pesky clothes and see what's it really like to be naked and hanging free. Feel the breeze and the sunshine all over your body surrounded by similarly nude men of all ages, colors/skin tones, shapes, sizes, weights and interests. You'd be amazed at how friendly men can really be when they're completely naked. After all, there's nothing left to hide and no place to conceal it!

If you're not at the point to where you're comfortable with public nudity: no problem. Be good to yourself and your overall health and venture out to enjoy nature, sports and socializing whether it's in an urban park, beach, pool, ball field, backyard or just an apartment balcony. There's only 100 calendar days in the entire summer season, so each and every moment is precious.

Remember, this is the season when men shed their shirts in order to show off their physique. They also put on those baggy athletic shorts. These two factors afford a rare opportunity for some serious eye candy for all those who care to look. So, get outside the house or apartment and view the scenery all around. Be vigilant. You just might get lucky and catch an eyefull of male bounty like the one pictured below.

Happy Summer, 2012!

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked



You Decide: Disgrace or Pride?

At first glance, many may see the above cartoon as a replication of a proud nudist black man. All the trappings of pride are clearly evident: the rainbow flag, the beads around the neck and the ones around his balls and cock, both in the colors of the rainbow. Literally and figuratively, head-to-head gay pride all the way. That's probably what the artist, cartoonist Patrick Fillion, fully intended. An image of complete pride. A strong, buffed black man; a fitting representation of the best of his race. 

But is that the only message this caricature sends? Is there another subliminal meaning to this cartoon that perhaps isn't so flattering? Perhaps, even, derogatory? Maybe just a little bit of racial profiling?

There's a possibility the supersized erect cock, protruding nipples and tight balls depict the stereotype of the oversexed and promiscuous black man. Always horny and loaded with testosterone. Unable to control his sexual appetite. Ready to pillage and plunder any white man within reach or sight.

The look in his eyes some may see as teasing and seductive. Others may see the look as deceitful and lustful. It's all based on experience and perspective. Some experiences and worldviews encourage and foster bigotry and prejudice.

The muscles and physical prowess many may see as just what it implies: strength. The same image to others can represent sexual aggression, thuggishness or a criminal element. Anything but the reflection of fitness and health.

As a gay man who is a practicing social nudist, I've no issue with the subject's nudity. However, those from a modest background or a puritanical upbringing possibly view his nakedness as a reference to his rampant and uncontrollable sexual proclivity. Many unfamiliar with social nudity wrongly equate nudism with sexual license.  

In no way am I even hinting that Mr. Fillion's cartoon contains any form of racism. I'm sharing these thoughts with you for your consideration and determination. There's a saying that every picture is worth a thousand words. Just as we carefully choose our words to avoid misunderstanding, we must apply the same to the images that we share.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked

Photo Advice

In my posting from last Thursday, Photo Advice, June 7, 2012, I reminded all of us of the importance of the background when taking self-photos. Obviously, the man pictured here has already mastered that particular skill and is using it to his full advantage. This image not only caught my attention, but, I'm sure the eyes of thousands of viewers who've seen it.  

Not only is he making optimum use of the physical environment available to him; he's also showing his creativity as well. He's doubled up, using this one photograph to capture not just his handsome face, but another admirable asset of his anatomy at the same time. Both his masculinity and generous endowment are immediately available for the viewer's delight and pleasure.

What's more, his attitude is coming through loud and clear in this one photo. He's evidently assured, comfortable and proud of not only his sexuality but also of his nudity. Judging from what he's showing to us, he has every right to be proud of his desirability.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked 

Proud Biracial Nudist Couple

When my boyfriend and I first met and became friends, we were both closeted nudists. I started going to nudists beaches, alone and secretly, for three years before we met. My boyfriend-to-be only for a year (also by himself and on the sly). Funny, while we were "just friends" (for all of six months), we never shared with each other this aspect of our lives. We just didn't know how the other would react to this news.

One weekend afternoon in early spring, we were having lunch together and talking about beach trips for the upcoming summer. Feeling somewhat bold, I casually suggested Gunnison Beach in New Jersey (see May 24, 2012 post). My future boyfriend, without batting an eye, asked if that was the clothing optional beach with a gay section. A little amazed at his knowledge, I said yes, it was. He agreed to go without further comment.

This was to be a one-day excursion, so aside from discussing details about logistics, neither one of us made mention of the nudity aspect. As we were still in the "just friends" phase, until this trip, we'd never seen each other shirtless, much less naked. It wasn't until he was driving us to the beach on the actual date that I mentioned the fact that I'd probably be nude once we arrived. He replied that was cool and he'd do the same.  For the rest of the drive, that was all we said about the matter.

It wasn't until we'd arrived at our destination, stripped and spent some time naked together that we revisited the topic of nudity. At this time, we both confessed our individual nudist experiences. This brought a chuckle to us both as we realized we could have shared our nudity long before this moment. We agreed to be open with each other from then on. Sealing this pledge with a handshake, it soon became a naked hug (on the beach in front of everyone). As we pulled apart, both of us were semi-erect.

Since that time, we've been a proud, biracial,  gay, nudist couple. Together, we've developed a network of gay social nudist friends, both couples and singles. Taking pride in our nudist lives, no longer do we have the need to remain secretive about our preference for living naked as much as possible. There's no point in concealing who we truly are, as a couple or as individuals.

Our body reflects both our gender and our race. It's an essential part of the man that we are. If we indeed feel pride in who and what we are inside, it only stands to reason that we feel the same amount of pride in who we truly are on the outside (our nudity). There is nothing disgusting or shameful about our naked selves.   

If nothing else is apparent, our nakedness is a reflection of our confidence and pride in being the man that we really are inside. Our nude body is a gift that we are giving to others. We are allowing others to see us as we truly are, free from hiding behind the false trappings of clothes and status.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked

Photo Advice

Modern technology is constantly changing the way that we live. One of these advances is the multiple uses of our phones, especially with improved quality and the rising popularity of social networking. Tens of millions are now taking self pictures with their phones and posting these on social sites as well as sending to friends and family everywhere.

Increasingly, gay men are now taking self images of themselves nude. It's no longer as big a deal as it was say, maybe, ten years ago. Slowly, it is becoming more acceptable. As a naturist/nudist, I wholeheartedly welcome this evolution. I also smile to myself whenever I see this. After all, I've been sharing nude photographs of myself for years now.

While what is custom and routine for me is still a novelty for others, I admit that I am enjoying the fruits of this new fashionable trend. I now have acquaintances who volunteer to send me a picture and seconds later, there it is. What the sender neglected to tell me was that the photo is a nude one. Of course, that's no problem whatsoever for me. And yes, I willingly return the favor.

However, I do humbly offer one piece of advice to my fellow amateur self photographers. Next time you feel the urge to take another photo, please, give it a moments thought before you point and shoot. Before you strip and press the button, look around you. Please, clean your room!

Respectfully,
Black Lover Naked

Proud Gay Man, Proud Black Lover

I am a proud gay man. I am a proud gay man who is in love with another proud gay man. I am a proud white man. I am a proud white man who is in love and in a relationship with a proud black man. It's just who I am. It's just who we are. Individuals, yet together. Two men, in love with each other. Proud of ourselves as men. Proud of us as a gay couple in love. Proud of our respective races. Proud of our union as a black man and a white man.

We're both proud of what we have together. We're proud of what we've built together over the past three years. We're proud of what we share together now. We're proud and hopeful of our shared dreams for the future. As a black man and white man in love, we're proud of our individual past selves and we're proud of our current lives together as one.

Our life journeys before we met weren't always easy or simple. There were good times and there were times that were not so good. The lessons we separately learned made each one of us proud and strong. These same lessons also taught us individually that there was an important element missing from our lives. That absent aspect was the love and support of another man. A friend. A lover. A partner. A soulmate. A companion in good times and bad.

One day, by chance, we met. We walked together. We talked together. We started to hang out together and we became friends. We took a day trip together to a naturist/nudist beach. We arrived there as friends but when we left, we both felt that spark that let us both know that what we really wanted from each other was more than just friendship.

Our life journey together as a proud gay biracial couple isn't always easy or simple. There are good times and there are times that are not so good. There are those who hate us because he is black and I am white. There are those who are disgusted by us because we're both gay. Then there are those who dislike us because we're both nudists. There are others who despise us due to the combination of the three reasons listed above. Of course, there are some who are jealous of us, a biracial couple, solely because we are in love and as a biracial couple we are happy.

Our life journey together as a proud gay biracial couple is made easier on account of our pride. Individually, we are confident of ourselves as a gay man, as a nudist and as a member of our own race and heritage. Together, based on our respective confidence, we take pride in what we are, what we have and what we share. Our personal pride becomes the foundation of our union with one another: the "me" becoming the "we," the "us." Our collective pride is what makes the two of us into our one, a proud gay biracial couple.

June is Gay Pride Month! Happy Pride Month! Be proud!

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked