I'm A Social Nudist

I am a social nudist. Basically, this means that I am a man who enjoys living life engaging in activities free from clothes: naked. That's the simplistic definition or the bottom line. Unfortunately, like most things in life, it's all more complex than what it appears on the surface. Without getting too technical and confusing, I'll keep it as brief as possible while trying to give you a clear idea of what I'm about.

Most people understand the labels naturist and nudist to be the same. The reality is that the definitions and opinions are as diverse as the numbers of people identifying as such. Personally, I think of nudists as those who view nudity as a social interaction. Nudism is to be experienced with family or friends at home, at private or public events (including athletics) and at nude beaches/resorts or clothing-optional facilities. Naturists, on the other hand, are those who view nudity as a way of life, a healthy lifestyle, living clothes-free and embracing the concept of being nude, which is perfectly natural, and the rest of nature. Nudism is a way of living (naked) whereas naturism is a practical philosophy (lifestyle) and worldview.

That;s the theoretical version. As for me (and I am not alone),  I'm much less a linguist and by no means a purist. I use naturism/nudism and naturist/nudist interchangeably and consider myself both. One term doesn't appeal to me over the other; however, I acknowledge the fact that others do value the difference and I respect their preference. Once again, like everything else in life, it's all about perspective and how an individual chooses to self-identify.

I am a social naturist/nudist. I'd rather be nude in the company of others, no matter if they're clothed (textile) or naked. I'm human and most humans are social creatures, right? Naturists are no different. Even though I'm naked when home alone, I prefer nudity in a group or social environment, as do most nudists. Optimally, my communal situation is with my gay nudist brothers; however, I'm just as comfortable sharing my nakedness in a mixed gender activity. People are, after all, most relaxed when in the midst of others they perceive most like themselves; in my case, same gender loving men. But what's important to me is the freedom to be nude. Therefore, I'll welcome any opportunity that's presented, gay or heterosexual.

My own comfort level in any type of social setting is also determined by the heritage diversity of the folks within the crowd. I feel better being in a group with a variety of ethnicities and races. I like to look around and see the bodies and faces that reflect all of mankind, not just a select few. I was raised in a multiracial family and in a pluricultural neighborhood. The majority of my life experiences have been in the company of those who's skin tone is unlike my own. Personally, I feel discomfort when I find myself in an exclusively white-people-only situation. That's just not for me.

Respectfully,
Black Lover Naked

Strange Friendships?

I often wonder why we don't see more scenes like the one pictured above. Two men walking together on a nude beach; one black, one white. Nothing to indicate any type of relationship aside from platonic friendship. First glance and most will state the obvious: again, one's black and the other is white. So, what's the big deal? Can't they be friends?

This is a sight that I usually don't see. A black man and a white man, one-on-one and friends. I'm aware of the stereotypical cliche`: "some of my best friends are black." This standard comeback typically means I have one acquaintance (most times, a co-worker) who's African-American. Or vice-versa. Rarely do I ever see a one-on-one mixed race amicable situation, even in larger metropolitan areas. Romantic relationships, yes. Friendships? Hardly ever.

I know from personal experience that whenever two same gender loving men are seen together, the general assumption is that they're physically intimate. Then follows the secondary judgment that the black man is the top who is fucking the presumed white bottom. Oh yes, another myth concerning the supposed massive cock (Mandingo dick) of the African-American. It's funny sometimes how one stereotype perpetuates another. Please don't misunderstand me; I've no problem with mixed race romantic relationships. I've been in those myself and found them to be emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually gratifying and rewarding.

I have quite a few gay friends who are black. I also have some male friends who are both black and heterosexual. Most of the time, when I'm in the company of an African-American queer friend, the two automatic assumptions mentioned above prevail. We're together so we must be in a physical relationship. He's black and I'm white so he's fucking my ass with his huge manhood. Otherwise, why else would we be together? 

I'm the proverbial "chocoholic" and he's the "snow queen." We're judged this by men of  most all ethnicities and races. That has to be reason that we're together. Otherwise, there's no plausible explanation (in their minds) for us to be seen in public. None seem to even entertain the thought that maybe we happen to be non-sexual friends who have something in common outside of physical involvement. It's inconceivable that there's the possibility of a plain, old-fashioned friendship coming into play here.  

What's incomprehensible to most men is the simple fact that we're two gay men, both nudists but of different races, who happen to be just friends. We enjoy each others company, have at least one common interest, such as sports, photography, reading, art, etc., and are both struggling to find happiness in life while facing an all-to-often hateful, homophobic and hostile world. That's the reason that we're together.

We can see that our skin color is different. That's obvious to all. One cock may be larger than the other. That's obvious, also. However, between the both of us, it just doesn't matter. We're beyond the obvious and the physical. We're friends!

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked

Sex, Too

Perhaps this topic should have been mentioned somewhere in my initial entry. Yes, I will publish both photographs and narratives dealing with sex, sexual activities and positions. I apologize for the omission; it wasn't intentional. Surprisingly, I didn't incorrectly assume it was understood. I just overlooked this piece of information until after I had posted last Friday's entry.

I'm not trying to compete with all the pornographic blogs and websites online. I will candidly discuss these subjects and offer illustrations to demonstrate my meaning. I will be healthy, honest and open about sex/sexuality and any related topic. However, I'm not exclusively about sex and won't attempt to pretend otherwise. I do maintain that sex is good and does provide pleasure, as long as it's consensual, legal and respectful. I'm also an advocate, educator and practitioner of the safer sex guidelines of the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Unlike many in our society, I'm not shy in talking about men having sex with men. I am a sexual being; enjoying physical intimacy and exchanging pleasure with my own gender is what I do. I feel no regret nor shame in being the man that I am. It's not all that I'm about; however, it is a part of me that I don't and won't deny. It's as much a part of me as are my blue eyes, right-handedness and my shaved head. Far too many are in permanent denial surrounding this subject for me to ignore it and play that silly game.  

Yes, I will offer entries featuring sexually explicit experiences, fantasies, information and thoughts. I'll likewise compose articles on friendships, hobbies, photography and sports. The potential range of topics are as numerous as the stars in the sky; sex is but one component. But it is a subject that won't be danced around as though it doesn't exist.

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked   

Follow And Honor Your Heart

The first post here and what should I do? Introduce myself? Define this blogsite? Write about why I'm doing this? Discuss my life experiences and the reason for a Caucasian same gender loving man to have a life-long admiration, adoration, appreciation and infatuation with African, African-American and Black men? As you can see, the choices are endless.  

In the interests of brevity, I think it's best to follow the wisdom of our collective past, regardless of racial heritage: KISS: Keep It Simple, Stupid. After all, the title, description and the above paragraph contain all the basic information necessary at this time. I'm a white man who prefers the company of and intimacy with black men. It's a preference and not an exclusion. I am a friend and lover of all men. Given a choice, more than likely my inclination is to associate myself with a black man over all others. I'm being honest and real.

Two other insights into who I am. I'm in my early 40s in age and I'm a practicing social nudist. Let's leave it at that for this moment. There's ample opportunity to share more as this journal of personal concerns, desires, dreams, experiences, fears, fetishes, ideas, memories, motives, opportunities, passions and possibilities unfold. Face it, that's one of the primary reasons for publishing a blog: sharing.

In this post today, I am following and honoring my heart through exposing my love of black men of all hues, shades and tones. 

Respectfully,

Black Lover Naked